Another Update

Christmas was awesome. My sister and my brother brought their families and we had a really good meal. Everyone said it was good and that the ham was da bomb ... the best I've ever made. I really enjoyed it. The kids got more presents than I thought they would and they really liked what they got. That made me very happy.

We went back to court on the 18th and once again my husband was not transported from prison. I couldn't help it and I started crying. He was arrested in May and it is December and we still do not have a trial date. Every court date, either they don't transport him or he files some new ridiculous motion to slow things down. The judge set a fourth pre-trial for February 5th. The prosecuting attorney told him that on that day he either wants a trial date or a plea agreement.

It amazes me how the judicial system has done nothing but cater to this man. They took two weeks to arrest him. We have had seven months of court dates, but a trial date has not been set. He has had three status conferences and is now getting ready to have his fourth pre-trial. They are so worried about stepping on his precious rights. What I would like to know is who is concerned with the rights of three little girls who deserve justice? Do their rights not matter? It makes no sense whatsoever to me.

I am also appalled that the court system allows him to hold up our divorce. I signed divorce papers on June 29th. I still do not have a divorce. Because he is in prison, they have to make sure that his rights are not violated and a Guardian Ad Litem has to be appointed to represent him. He waits to the last day to respond to anything sent him and then he holds things up with stupid requests like me changing my name and that he wants custody of Lady! First of all, he is in prison. He cannot have a dog in prison! Secondly, Lady died on September 20th! I notified his mother and one of his nephews after I found out she had been hit by a car. Obviously, they didn't bother to tell him or he doesn't care and is just using it as another tool to hang onto me as long as he can. He tells his family that he cannot wait until we are divorced, but yet he does everything in his power to prevent it from happening.

It is ridiculous. Really.

But, God is faithful and He shows me His love everyday. He has done so much good in our lives since all this went down. He really has. My faith has grown tremendously. I met a wonderful man in our church and we have become the best of friends. He has a strong walk with the Lord and the most gentle heart of anyone I have ever met. He has asked me to marry him and I have accepted his proposal. He is in a ministry program in the next town over right now and we are hoping to be married by the time he graduates next year. He is the reason the kids had a good Christmas.

God continues to bless me and I try hard to focus on those blessings and not the adversity I face with my soon-to-be ex-husband. The devil can only do so much. I also have to remember that as much as I want to call that man a monster, he is a child of our God as well. God loves him. I just hope one day he realizes that and repents for what he has done.

In the meantime ... I am outtie. Hopefully, the internet will be restored early next year. God bless you for even taking the time to come by and see how we are doing. :)